Daria and Alvin's love story
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Daria and Alvin met online on the website where people communicated. It was March 2014, when she lived in Harbin [North China] and he lived in Shanghai. They have begun to exchange letters and emails as friends. After a few months, they could not imagine that there was no information in each other in life. In the summer of 2014, he persuaded her to move to Shanghai. For her, this was a very bold decision to go to a big city alone to find a man she had never seen before in real life, but she felt that she did not hesitate. She quit her job in Harbin, bid farewell to her friend, and moved to Shanghai. Finally, when they met in Shanghai on August 28, 2014, the stars agreed.
Three years later, he suggested that the cherry blossoms bloom in Mount Fuji. This is the most romantic place and the most romantic proposition she can imagine. In the past three years, they have traveled extensively in Asia, adopting two cats and getting married.
Problem with her
Our first date...
We went to the Bund at night, then went to one of the largest parks in downtown Shanghai, chatting on the bench all night until 4am.
In the first few months of the appointment, my trade destroyer will be ...
If he is not polite or looks too boring, he will make me prematurely intimate.
I know that he is suitable for me...
I know him better, I know how ambitious and responsible he is. When I know his views on life and planning, this is similar to my own plan.
When he was... I was shocked by culture.
I'm sick, refused to take medicine, and said he only needs to drink more hot water!
The three things I like about him are...
I like him to be a very talented artist. I like that he has a great sense of humor and he always makes me laugh. I like that when we are alone, he is a very open person, he will never hide his true feelings and be honest with me.
The biggest misunderstanding about his country and culture is...
I used to think that China was not a developed country, but a poor country with people wearing triangular straw hats and growing rice. Similarly, large Chinese cities like Shanghai or Guangzhou are more developed than most European cities.
The best thing he has done for me is...
I am in Shanghai for the first week. I live in a hotel. He came to work at my hotel early in the morning and brought me breakfast. This is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me.
In this relationship, I learned that my most important thing is... I should be more flexible about the facts. It's not important to always be right, sometimes I should back down to avoid unnecessary arguments and other issues.
If there is a suggestion I can give to my Western girlfriends, they are in the AMWF relationship...
You should not look for a life partner based on his/her ethnicity. I think if someone wants to be with you just because you are white or Asian, these relationships will not last forever. We should first look at the personality and soul of the person. If your soul mate happens to come from a different culture, the most important thing is to keep an open mind and embrace different cultures, no matter how unusual it may seem.
Question about him
Asked her for the first time...
I was very nervous all night, but I think she is my oldest friend. We are talking all night.
I know she is suitable for me...
There is no specific time, but those countless moments make me feel overwhelmed because I need this person in my life. Those moments are like she left a love note in my wallet before I went on a business trip...
When she... I was shocked by culture
I am often influenced by culture, which is why I am so attracted to her. This makes me very afraid that she likes coffee and wine. Maybe this is not a cultural thing [we all know that coffee and red wine are not Chinese culture], but I am more like a hot water man. Drink plenty of water, good for your health!
The three things I like about her are...
1. Her compassion [when we saw a stray animal, she cried, we helped save many kittens and puppies, including our own two cats]. Her correctness [you never want to cross in front of her!] 3. Her eyes!
The biggest misunderstanding about her country and culture is...
Russians drink vodka. Vodka is a Russian thing, but not everyone is crazy about Russian vodka...
The thing she likes to play with me is...
Travel, watch movies, exercise, read, and everything the couple does.
She hates me...
This is a very difficult problem because she is my biggest fan and she never hates what I do. No, I lied. Oh! She hates it when I lie. Moreover, she is our little idea, knowing everyone, so when I make unnecessary suggestions, she hates it.
In this relationship, I learned that my most important thing is...
Growing up as a Chinese, I can't imagine that I will eventually meet girls from another country. China's family and education may be very nervous, so it does not allow me to slow down and appreciate the present and progress. It is always about results [exams, rankings in schools and classes]. It is very different from my wife's cultural background. They grow up with friends and siblings, have fun and keep on field trips. Have very different environments and values.
What I learned from our relationship is to accept and respect our differences. It took us a while to fully understand this, but now I am beginning to appreciate the difference between people and culture. The truth is, we are all very different people, regardless of nationality or race, we will always be different. People are beginning to realize this and they can improve their relationship with anyone, including friends, family or colleagues, which is very valuable. This is how we create connections through differences.
If there is a suggestion, I can give it to my Asian friends, who are in the AMWF relationship...
Respect her because she is a special person, not just because she is a Westerner. If you love her because of her ethnic background, it will disappoint you. Her ethnic background may be a special thing that will appeal to you at the beginning, but there is more to it than one person on this subject. Before you dive into this serious relationship, you should ask yourself if you think she is a woman, just like everyone else, or if you put a "Western label" on her. If you are ready to choose 1, let us beat that stereotype together.
Orignal From: Marry a Chinese
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